There's a website I'm addicted to in addition to www.fmylife.com. It's a blog about relationships. See it here: www.datingish.com. A lot of the posts are really insightful and make you think. Some posts are funny. Like this one about a girl accidentally losing her virginity: http://www.datingish.com/698867336/somy-friend-accidentally-lost-her-virginity/. Most of the people who write on this site are college and high school aged. I usually try to stay away from the ones I think are written by high schoolers because I really don't think I can learn anything from them. I like reading this blog so much because they cover a wealth of topics that come up during relationships, from the awkward "friends or something more?" stage (http://www.datingish.com/698949727/dear-dr-datingish-can-you-be-close-friends-who-cuddle/) to the the "sitting on the couch in sweats watching TV" stage (http://www.datingish.com/698578568/date-nights-become-nonexistent-in-long-relationships/) and they're usually pretty relatable. And if they aren't relatable, I like reading people's experiences. So check it out! My favorite blogger is Miss Ostrich: http://www.datingish.com/tags/authormissostrich/.
Next week will be a fun filled week. On Wednesday is the Britney Spears concert (excited!), Thursday is community service day at work (I'm going to help clean up a park), and on Friday I leave for SoCal for the weekend! I get to see my babe and my family, who I haven't see since Christmas.
I talked to Erik about how I feel about long distance. He told me to do whatever makes me happy. If being in SoCal will make me happier, then I should just do it. Though I think he may be a bit biased because that means he'll be closer to me. Long distance is hard on the both of us. I also told him about how I liked my job, but I get lonely up here and didn't know what I should do. He said my happiness may be more important than the job, but he did recognize that I might regret leaving the job if my new job ends up sucking. So he said, maybe if I stayed at my job for 2 more years until he graduates and he finds a good job, I can move in with him in SoCal and can work at whatever job I want while he supports me (because I have a feeling the jobs in LA won't pay me as much as the job I have now -- there are mostly start ups, small companies, or academic research jobs). Moving in together is a HUGE deal. I felt really touched that he was thinking that far into the future. I know I shouldn't think so much into it now since it's 2 years away, but the thought of living with him excites me and scares me. It would be wonderful to have him everyday, waking up together, going to sleep together, making meals together. But doesn't this sort of thing usually leady to marriage? (Eeep!) Or possibly worse, non-marriage? (See the movie "He's Just Not That Into You." Jennifer Aniston's character lives with her boyfriend for 7 years and keeps hoping for him to propose, but he's too comfortable with the way things are and sees no need to get married.) I do see him in my future and I hope he does end up being the One. But I'm not going to be naive and say that he is at this moment. I think life would be great to live with him. But how long would it last? What if we get sick of each other and break up? Wouldn't that be the most awkward thing if we lived together? (See another Jennifer Aniston movie, "The Break Up".) And would my family disown me? (Lol... conservative family....) I guess all these thoughts are valid fears when make a big decision like moving in with a significant other. But I don't need to dwell on these for another 2 years (if we are still together by then).
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hi Erika! where are you working? hope you're doing well :)
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